Agreed. I say that as someone who's been a devout Christian since I was 14, and has volunteered a lot with kids, both elementary age and youth.
Too many churches have taken one of two approaches with youth: they either embrace worldly ways (bad), or the stick to ways that are ultra traditional but not necessarily Biblical. The first approach is obvious how it's wrong.
The 2nd approach is with things like music. Are we really supposed to believe the early church had music at all, much less what we call "traditional music", so why insist it be "traditional"? I say it can be of different styles as long as it's authentic, bonus points if the style changes based on what's being sung about (songs about God's power has a different sound than songs about being humble before God). Another way we can be too traditional is by expecting all of the teaching be from sermons instead of sitting around reading and discussing the Bible together. Every church I've been in has a handful of Bible geeks who could lead small discussions and make it more personal than a sermon style setting. That setting unfortunately gives too many young people the impression that there's too wide a chasm between them and being devout.
Another thing is us churches don't talk about sex enough, especially given the world's obsession with it. When I volunteer with youth, I ask the youth leaders and parents if I'm allowed to not talk about sex, but talk about attraction. They always give me permission to say things like every now and then pointing to my wife on the other side of the room and say that I'm taking that gorgeous thing home with me. Since the kids all think I'm smart (the gamer generation always thinks us programmers are smart LOL), it's letting them know that even smart and devout people have attraction like they do, and they can get what we all want doing things God's way, without me having to say it directly. Things like that are so simple, yet so few people in church leadership (including us volunteers) do it.
Can't agree wholeheartedly with your post about the music -- most churches have this debate. I realize the youth want the rock band sound; but the main difference between the old hymns and the Christian pop songs is that the hymns are usually based largely on the psalms or gospel scriptures, and singing them drives the message deep into your unconscious as well as your conscious brain. Whereas the pop tunes just repeat a few brief mottos over and over. What I also like is when a musician trained in rock instruments or at least guitar or piano re-interprets an older hymn for contemporary singing styles and pacing.
I do agree that an organ can get boring, but that's mainly because it's a complex instrument. Churches liked them because they have two keyboards and a wide range of sound settings, so that a really good musician can produce a wide variety of sounds and instrumentations. But paying an organist who is deeply trained is expensive; whereas the Christian pop bands practice in garages and are usually volunteers.
The Lutheran Church - Missouri Synod (LCMS) is the most outstanding church I've ever expeienced for illuminating the meaning of the scriptures to our lives today in every sermon, every Sunday, as well as providing multiple opportunities for learning the meaning of the Bible. Classes, online resources, radio shows, podcasts, the above-lined web site, and of course the Lutheran Catechism.
The LCMS (which is absolutely NOT to be confused with the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America - ELCA) is orthodox Lutheranism. In his Catechism, Luther stripped away an accumulation of non-biblical add-ons from centuries of popes and culture to return the church to what Jesus taught the Apostles.
Technology changes, but God does not change. People who try to make the church go with the flow of what's happening in ever-changing culture are doomed to moral failure.