“The birth father was from an affair and not the woman’s husbund”. When I was in graduate school, came across a study that claimed that one out of ten children within a marriage had such origins.Values matter in psychosocial development. Americans are abandoning religion and its moral dictums. The results are not pretty or stable.The embrace of neo pagan, hedonistic decadence will not end well.
It also means that there is a lack of a trust bond between the parents.
When I’m working with a person, I can tell immediately if their parents fought in front of them when they were young.
I was doing a presentation in the divinity school and a woman about forty volunteered. I walked through her memories and commented that she had one of the most perfect childhoods I had ever encountered. No traumas, no fighting or divorce between parents, no wounds. She confirmed this to the group.
I went on to point out that when she was twenty, her parents had a disagreement in front of her.
She explained that when she was home from college on break, she was upstairs and for the first time in her life she heard her parents having an argument downstairs.
How do I know this. When I touch the stored memory in their consciousness, their body starts shaking and swaying back and forth. Kind of like a boat on turbulent waters. The stability of their dependency upon the bond with the parents was violated.
I went on to add that ten years ago a man abandoned her and she was still very angry at him. She replied that next week will be exactly ten years ago that her husband died and she is still very upset that the man she loved so much left her life.
My point is that divorce, hatred, even arguments in front of young children creates wounds in their soul.