And my state even had a new law in place before my ex filed divorce: the Parent-Child Relationship Protection Act. It says that the custodial parent (usually mother) can't move the kids more than so many miles away from the father unless the father allows, or the father does drugs or is abusive.
The judges were completely ignoring the law. Case "law" mattered to them more than actual law from the state legislature. I ran out of money paying $1,175/month child support (a lot of money a couple of decades ago) while also paying my legal bills. Thus I had to learn how to represent myself in court (pro se). And by the hand of God, I won custody. Married another lady. Started a blended family, and one of my two kids and I re-bonded. The other one never could get out of his daddy-bashing training. I'm still praying for that too. The Lord healed me from a so-called incurable disease, and gave me a win in a seemingly unwinnable court battle. Experiences like that taught me to quit doubting Him.
Please read my posts on this thread. They might apply to your situation. Mothers program their children’s feelings, often without even knowing it.
Very miraculous! In my case my husband had it happen to him with his leftist ex. They were divorced officially in 2005 and I’m glad there wasn’t the “trans movement” going on because both of his boys would have been put in dresses by the ex just to get back at him.
The two boys and one girl who are now adults in their twenties, remain alienated due to his ex and his ex-MIL’s guerilla Parental Alienation tactics.
We live in upstate NY where the biomom has all the rights. Even the school district told us that they don’t consider the non custodial parent’s opinions.
I’m now watching the son of my close friend going through that same thing that you describe. It is so terribly wicked how these vengeful parents seem to get the upper hand from judges who spend ten minutes reading the case file, make an arbitrary decision, then refuse to alter their point of view based on new information. Meanwhile, the parent who cared more and is more devastated at the loss of contact with the spouse and kids can barely think straight to defend himself/ herself until the wicked one has driven several spikes into their heart, fully backed by the judge.
God hates divorce. Churches have fallen down on their job of preparing young people for lasting marriage.