Either one is with the Lord, or one is not. Choices often have sad results; but one chooses obedience to the Lord, not the flesh, even affection for friends or family members.
“Do not think that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I have not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law. And a person's enemies will be those of his own household.
—Matthew 10:34-36 ESV
Thanks. I’ll have to read that in kjv.