Your psychistrist wife was undoubtedly on the receiving end of “collateral information” from self-interested wives advised by attorneys on how through deception and mendacity to gain an irreversible advantage over their husbands in family court in terms of
achieving temporary full child custody and utterly destroying their husbands’ relationships with his own children.
How did she feel about being part of a family-destroying machine?
That’s not how she works.
She spent 30 years working with veterans and understands them well. When I first visited her house many years ago before we were married, I opened her desk drawer to grab a pen and there was a handful of 45 auto bullets. I picked them up and asked her about them. She explained that a vet was threatening suicide and she convinced him to give her the bullets from his gun. Having a gun taken from a vet is too traumatic as it is a security blanket that provides much comfort. It would have made the situation worse.
She understands.
Much of what she did was to protect men from their Philippino wives who were taking advantage of them.