My mother taught me to be patient in my wife search. Growing up, one thing she didn’t verbally teach me: watch out for control freak women. I learned that by observing men’s wives. And I had a striking example with my mother and my aunt.
Though they were identical twins, their personalities were almost opposites. Mom was firm in discipline, but wasn’t a control freak. My aunt was; and it affected her kids to where they really admired my kinder/gentler mother.
As I matured I became good at detecting a control freak chick, even though some were smart enough during the dating/get aquainted time to try to restrain their urge to be bossy. Dated more than one that was very attractive, but would slip up and accidentally display a bossy personality. Deep down they know most guys don’t want bossy girlfriends or wives.
I found it manifests early when she starts to demote and cull your friends. One has to be self-aware enough to know when one's friends are a good or bad influence, but a bossy girlfriend will quickly start to subtly press you to cull acquaintances who she clashes with.