The Case for Marrying an Older Man
Mar. 27, 2024
By Grazie Sophia Christie, a writer living in Miami and London
https://www.thecut.com/article/age-gap-relationships-marriage-younger-women-older-man.html
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A woman marrying an older man means his kids will have to put up with the widowed woman a longer time. That is not fair to his kids. You married her, you should protect your kids as long as possible from dealing with her alone.
Good article, excellent points.
The ideal time for a woman to select a husband is when she’s still in college, and she does well to select a somewhat older man who already has a job and a decent income.
She made the right choice but the article creeped me out.
She dissected her marriage like a dead frog. I was amazed they had lasted this long.
By midlife women report feeling invisible, undervalued;
Well my dear, welcome to the life of most young men. Women find a statistically impossible 80% of men "below average" according to surveys. So for the vast majority of young men who haven't had the opportunity to accomplish much yet or earn a lot of money....well, you can imagine what the dating prospects are like.
You spend a lot of time talking about "unfairness" and the "work" women put into boyfriends knocking off some of their rough edges. From the male perspective it looks exactly the opposite. It is women who are dealt all and I mean ALL the cards early on.....without working for any of it. Nature just gives it to them. Far from putting in a lot of "work" on men, what I saw from a lot of women in their 20s was the exact opposite. Any work they put in was solely in pursuit of the most elite men. That would be fair enough if we were talking about elite women themselves but no. We're talking about damn near all of them. The smart ones figured out they were being unrealistic early on. Many kept pursing men who were clearly out of their league until all their youth was gone.
So when is her time, exactly? For leisure, ease, liberty?
16-30. Use it wisely.
Above all, the great gift of my marriage is flexibility.
A big part of the reason men pursue younger women. Flexibility. You described a bunch of your women friends on the career track who were 30 or in their early 30s, single, and wanted to have a kid before 35. How would you like to be the kind of guy who couldn't get the time of day from her in her 20s but now that she spent over a decade riding the cock carousel and now that you've studied and worked hard and are FINALLY starting to reap the rewards for it.....how would you like to marry a woman like this whose youth is all gone, who probably doesn't really want to be with you anyway - she just wants someone and wants it NOW - so that you can immediately come under a ton of pressure to have kids?
Oh, did I mention that 70% of divorces are initiated by women? Did I mention that as a man you have less than a 10% chance of being awarded custody of your children from the marriage in case of divorce? Have we even discussed alimony or child support yet? Boy, this deal just looks better all the time for you as a man, doesn't it?
Last week, we looked back at old photos and agreed we’d given each other our respective best years.
Yes. You have what I call "goodwill" with him. You invested your youth in your relationship with him. He knows you don't think you settled. You actually wanted to be with him. You're not desperate because the ole biological clock is ticking as loud as a steam engine in your ears. You didn't pick him because you thought he was a reasonable acceptable schlub you could have your kids with and then optionally discard. You actually wanted to be with him. He knows because you invested your youth. If he is a decent guy, this counts for a LOT with him. Enough probably to have a happy marriage for the rest of your lives and have a family together.....unlike your friends who wasted their youth pursing men they couldn't land while turning down good men they could have been happy with....but now likely will never get.