Most of the NDEs I had read about were of people who went up to see Jesus, but not him. He went the other way and I found his story to be very convincing.
My guess is, if the event and the person telling their story gives glory to God, then it’s probably real.
Dannon Brinkley was one of the first to talk and write about his dark NDE.
If a person was anywhere near God, it will change them. The Love is so great it changes a person’s soul.
It is impossible to hold onto sin and approach the purity of God. He is a cleansing fire. His perfect Love not only casts out fear, but any obstacles to Love in a person’s soul.
There is a false process that can be triggered in several ways. One is an ego rescue. I watched one very famous NDE experiencer do this and then form a spiritual ego around his experience. He wrote several books and many TV appearances.
I have purposely stayed away from the publicity as it will take away the “feel” of the experience.