Here is one hilarious story that showed how she was...
She was in her mid nineties and refused to move to an assisted living facility. My grandfather had died and she lived by herself in a large house—though a maid did come and clean now and then.
My parents decided it was time to make the “hard sell”.
My father talked her into taking a tour of the nearby upscale assisted living facility. He drove her there and when they arrived the tour began.
She smiled at everybody, looked them in the eye, shook their hand, told them how much she appreciated their help.
This went on for an hour or so.
My father is thinking that this is going well.
They leave the building and he says “so are you ready to sign the papers and move in with these nice folks”.
Grandma smiled sweetly and said softly (so none of the facility staff could hear):
“Over my dead body.”
Sounds like my Mom. When she was 97 my oldest brother took her to the assisted living facility for the tour. When it was done she turned to my brother and said “I came, I saw, now take me back home”. She lived in her house until her last month when she died at 102.
Lol.
Good for her! Sounds like a sweet but also strong lady.