Posted on 10/25/2023 1:41:00 PM PDT by grundle
I wasn’t planning on grandchildren for at least another five years, but my son came home at age 22 and informed me that he was going to be a father. I am not a fan of his girlfriend at all; there is just something about her that makes me not trust her. I tried to communicate this to my son, but he is blinded by her beauty, among other things, and has never been able to hear what I have to say about her.
Now that the baby has arrived, my son truly has blinders on. He is so in love with his baby boy that the idea of getting a paternity test seems pointless to him. I told him that he should get it just to remove all doubt that the baby might not be his. They have had plenty of heated arguments while she was pregnant, and she is guilty of spewing comments about the baby not being his. My son assures me that she only has said those things out of anger and that the baby is most certainly his.
I wasn’t planning on grandchildren for at least another five years, but my son came home at age 22 and informed me that he was going to be a father. I am not a fan of his girlfriend at all; there is just something about her that makes me not trust her. I tried to communicate this to my son, but he is blinded by her beauty, among other things, and has never been able to hear what I have to say about her.
Now that the baby has arrived, my son truly has blinders on. He is so in love with his baby boy that the idea of getting a paternity test seems pointless to him. I told him that he should get it just to remove all doubt that the baby might not be his. They have had plenty of heated arguments while she was pregnant, and she is guilty of spewing comments about the baby not being his. My son assures me that she only has said those things out of anger and that the baby is most certainly his.
I told my son that he needs to be reimbursed for any and all monies he spent on her prenatal care. I personally want the money back for what we spent on throwing her a baby shower and on big-ticket items we bought, like the car seat, crib, and pack-and-play. My son is emotionally scarred and can’t think straight right now, so it is my job to make sure he is asking for the right things. Is it petty to demand money back for what my son and I spent on a child that’s not his?
Well, having the entire article - and not duplicated - does make a difference. We replied BEFORE we got the reason for the writer’s consternation!!!
Found it, from 2002: Another Paternity Fraud case.(30% of Paternity tests prove children fathered by other men.)
-PJ
Depending on the part of the USA being sampled, 30% to 70% of paternity tests show that the guy named as the father is NOT the biological father.
Them hoes be lying. Doesn't matter what color, shape, size, background, income levels, etc., US, UK, CA, AU, NZ, and Western Europe are the dregs of human civilization for young men who are looking for wives. It was that bad 30 years ago, and it has gotten 10 times worse in the past two decades.
There are some good women here in the USA -- those who get married to good men while they're in their early 20s, and then stay married.
Passport Bros (of all colors) are going to SE Asia, Latin and South America, and Eastern Europe to find traditional wives. Yes, there is some risk, but the laws and women in western nations make dating and marriage a losing game for men.
Had you read the article, you would know the answer.
FReepers mostly comment or question without reading the atricle...just plain lazy.
If his name is on the birth certificate he’ll have a heck of a time not having to pay child support. My son ignored my advice and ended up in that situation.
Happens a lot.
Just a brief note... he did NOT knock the girl up. The baby is not his. But he did have sex with her so it may be just a lucky break that she got pregnant from someone else of the others she was sleeping around with.
My advice: Your son is 22. Stay out of his stuff. You shouldn’t “tell” him anything.
No wonder young people cannot live on their own these days. Parents need to mind their own business.
Pretty much.
Let it go .
No I disproved it with DNA right away.
I took depositions because she caused a scandal and I wanted to clear my name. I sued her for slander of paternity or something my lawyer could tell you.
She did make a slip and say I had a foreskin. Which the mohel had taken care of 8 days after my birth. Ha.
If you had to deal with the child's nasty skank mother to get to spend time with him, you just might be able to let go.
He can. But you don’t have to.
I was listed (falsely by a woman I never met).
I knew a guy that got stuck that way. He had been separated from his wife for 5 years and lived in California while she lived in Idaho. She called him up and said she wanted to finalize their divorce because she was pregnant and was going to marry the baby’s father. He shows up in court with his lawyer and she with hers. They judge looked at her and said there’s a child involved so her lawyer spoke up and said it was the fiancé’s child, but the judge hung 18 years of support on my friend because they were still married. the attorneys tried to argue with the judge, but he didn’t care and stated that Idaho law says that if there’s a child in a divorce, the husband is deemed to be the father.
But couldn’t they voluntarily waive it, since the fiancé wants to be the fire?
His lawyer didn’t know about this?
Those gifts are not big tickets items.
Just let it go.
LOL...
Usually asking for leads to a divorce. It might be better for the children.
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