I don’t understand today’s parenting.
My parents raised five of us. We all went on to be successful adults with spouses and families of our own.
My husband and I have raised three children. They don’t smoke, do drugs, no baby mommas, and waited until they were of age to drink. None of them were ever arrested and all were known as the “good kids” in school. The biggest drama they ever caused was not doing chores in a timely manner. One graduated college and is married, one in college for microbiology, and one preparing for college, finishing his Senior year of high school.
Stealing, flash mobs, violence, destruction of property...that would cause dishonor to the family name. Maybe my stern warnings of, “We are (family name), we don’t behave that way,” made the difference. Maybe the emphasis on learning and personal development, pointing to our successful ancestors and relatives, made the difference. Maybe having God in our house made the difference.
Whatever these parents are doing isn’t working. If I disgraced the family name (bad grades, disrespectful behavior, criminal activity) my mother and father would have taken me behind the woodshed and my siblings would not have let me live it down.
Bless you and yours.
Lack of God in their lives is my guess.
The culture represented here doesn’t have kids to love and raise them. They have kids to boost their welfare payments. They don’t give a rats ass about those kids.
That sounds like my family. All are on their own and independent. All have good careers doing what they enjoy, from engineering to trucking. They all even get along. We have a family joke about family staples like memories, events, and mementoes that have meaning to all of us. Last time they were all together, all four of them went and got tattoos of a stapler to remind them of the family staples.
I’m not a big fan of tat’s, but they have actual meaning so...