I really don’t have any guilt about this because it’s not my problem. I am disappointed in my friend, and what she has done to herself. If I had gotten the kind of news, she got a year ago I would’ve done everything I could to change my life around. She didn’t do any of that. She kept engaging in the destructive behavior that brought on all her problems. At some point, I probably will confront her about some of these lies not that it will do any good.
That’s good. Lot of family/friends take on the guilt of their loved ones issues so I always recommend Al Anon. My uncle was an abusive drunk & when he and my aunt divorced, she went to AA & even though her kids hated their dad, she was pushing that they maintain a relationship with him because of her time in AA and understanding his disease. I’ll say a prayer for your friend.