Posted on 05/14/2023 10:03:28 AM PDT by Morgana
Dear Jane,
I am the proud mom of four kids. Three boys, one girl.
I love all of my children equally, but after having two boys, I was over the moon to have a girl and I’ve always loved the time that we’ve been able to spend together as momma and daughter.
But this past week, my daughter – who is 17 – told me and my husband that she is transgender. To say I was shocked would be an understatement. I didn’t know what to say. How to react. I just sat there in silence as she told us that she’s always felt out of sorts with herself. That she never really felt natural or comfortable. And that after many years of doubt, she’s now confident in the fact that she was born very much in the wrong gender and body.
I just don’t know what to do. She’s always been a bit of a tomboy, I suppose, but she’s always enjoyed doing girly things with me, like shopping and manicures and Real Housewives binges. I guess boys can do those things too, but I just never imagined that deep down while we were spending all that time together, she secretly thought she was meant to be a boy?
I know that, as a supportive parent, my first instinct should be to help her and guide her through this. But honestly I just don’t know if I can ever get my head around the idea that my daughter wants to be my son? She started talking about hormone therapies and surgeries and name changes, and I just shut down.
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I would never send my kids to a pagan temple to be educated.
No one is transgender. Teens look at teen magazines and develop a negative self image, as is the intention of the magazines. They stupidly think they would be happy “as” the other sex.
Quick trip to the attorney, change the will. Pronto.
Write her out of the will until she repents.
Ask her about all the things she was sure about as recently as a year or two ago. Pretend if she could have made irreversible decisions back then about her favorite music bands, or favorite friends, or favorite social media influencer or whatever. Think about how many times she's changed her minds over what's best or most fun or whatever in the past two years. Isn't she glad she didn't decide back then to forever lock in to those things being the only one she watched/listened to for the rest of her life? How restrictive would her life be like today if back then she decided her future (today) to be what she thought was important then?
Then explain that's what this decision is. Taking the hormonal "treatments" and telling everybody she knows that she's male would be impossible to undo when she later changes her mind -- unlike the countless other times she has changed her mind just about everything else important to her. And nobody she's trying to impress today cares about her enough to have made sacrifices for her. She can't count on them anyway. The only ones she can count on are the ones who have made sacrifices for her. And that's the Lord and family. Those are the only ones worth trying to impress. Those are the only ones who aren't trying to manipulate. The others are trying to manipulate her for their own entertainment regardless of the consequences to her life.
The letter was not written by anybody other than “Jane” and her staff. Its purpose is to tell us what to think and what not to think.
“Okay Freepers what would you all do if it was your kid or grandkid? More so only child?”
Exorcism, maybe?
Yeah. Probably exorcism.
Old school therapy would be productive. Hard to find that nowadays. A lot of it is woke. And it would enable her to do whatever she wants to do at this moment.
Disown them, until they come to their senses.
i would not let them get any surgery until they are adults.
I would not insist people call them by whatever name they picked either.
I’d find a really damn good therapist who is known to deal with this sort of thing for starters, and I mean a therapist, not a psyciatrist. Therapists who won’t affirm kids do exist, even if they’re hard to find. Even if it has to be done by a video appointment, I’d do it.
Firstly, I’d refuse to do/pay for any affirming therapies, but with a problem like this, if you cut a kid off from their social circle cold turkey or outright attack, you create more animosity and thus distance. It has to be handled slowly.
I’d surely start chopping down screen time and creating more family time, asking lots of questions without trying to be condescending (difficult, at least for me) and replying with what I know, offering books and videos of detransitioners in particular if I start seeing concern. I guarantee this kid doesn’t know what they will go through if they try to transition.
Lastly, I’d tell them that I’ll always love them, but that I will never lie to them by telling them that they can become the opposite sex just by will and medical intervention. Your DNA doesn’t lie. I won’t either.
I am no fan of illegal immigration, but native born Americans reduced these cities to their abysmal condition, not illegals.
She is a girl. It was decided before she was born. Tell her she can dress up like Peter Pan at Halloween. Biologic sex is not appealable.
She cannot be a boy or a cow or a tomato or Napoleon. Any of those objectives are a fool’s errand.
Not accepting the stark realities of life is a recipe for endless misery.
Her only hope for any happiness is to accept what cannot be changed and work on the many wrong things which can be changed.
I would tell them in no uncertain terms that they’re being influenced by culture and current beliefs. I would say give it ten years, act like the gender you really are sexually and see what happens.
Who does she want to have sex with and why?
Love her and forget HIM.
NOT To be cruel but let ITlive it’s life and you live yours.
I suspect a lot of this transgender nonsense is driven by those who do not pray.
“I just don’t know what to do.”
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Tell HER you love HER. That God doesn’t make mistakes, male and female He made us. Then get her good Christian counseling. Be prepared to go to jail over it. Pray and count on God.
Move to another country. Lock, stock and daughter.
Find a community where trans is still considered very weird.
Then have bigger problems. If you have to, make some up.
Get the daughter engaged in solving these problems.
Help her find new friends.
Etc.
Main thing, though, is get her a world away from where she is now.
Yes, it’s horribly expensive and life-altering. So is trans surgery. But moving away is reversible, once she comes to her senses.
When I have them, I won't be putting them in public school, first of all.
Teach conservative values at home, and critical thinking. You can't suddenly start doing that when a child is 17. If you try, you'll probably be reported to CPS as a bad influence, transphobic or supremacist.
When the damage is done, brainwash reversal measures are all pretty similar no matter what cult washed the brains.
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