My two youngest children suffer from an incurable endocrine defect. For my middle child, it resulted in hyperandrogenism and gender dysphonia. The free floating androgens were being recognized as testosterone by the adrenal receptors in her brain. My child did not need hormones to masculinize; it was happening naturally, would continue to happen for the rest of her life, and there was nothing we could do to stop it. When she said her brain was telling her she was a boy, the Endocrinologists (2 teams from two different hospitals) affirmed what was happening to her.
It is a special level of hell watching your child morph from a beautiful little girl into and androgynous looking male.
At 18, my daughter embraced what was happening and transitioned. She paid for her own surgery. We resisted as long as we could, never giving up prayer or hope that God could cure her. When she became an adult, the decisions were on her to make.
Less than 1% of the population suffers from her particular genetic defect and only 10% of those experience her side effects. Her condition is very rare.
The big push to transition kids is doing grave harm to children. Despite being a parent to a trans child and knowing the heartache they go through, I believe anyone encouraging children to do this is evil. If they are truly trans, they will do it on their own as an adult.
1) Your situation is difficult. There are many difficult situations. I don’t pretend to understand them.
2) One cannot “transition”; the whole concept is a lie. She is not male. “Surgery” does not change that.
3) May God bless, guide, and protect you and all your family.