How is this NOT actual kidnapping.?
It is not actual kidnapping. It is attempted kidnapping. This is because when the California state workers go to a (say) Iowa household to take a child for transition surgery and the parents shoot them dead, dead, dead, the kidnapping is not complete. It is only attempted because the workers did not succeed in their goal. However, no charges will be filed if the parents did their job right. Do not forget shovel and shut up.