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They did the same thing to Mr. RightField last year. He died on October 3. He was vented for 3 weeks before he died. It was horrible, and I couldn't see him until they called that morning and said. "Your husband is going to die today. If you want to see him, you should come today."

It was brutal. I wish I had known then what I've learned since.

I am so happy you got to be with your husband on his last day. They wouldn’t let my SIL see my brother even on his deathbed. They had been married 49 years and were close to their 50th anniversary.

Do I hold a grudge about the hospital protocols of denying loved ones visitation rights? You bet I do. Unforgivable. Might as well have tortured us all with medieval devices.

My brother especially went through hell, with no one around but an occasional nurse or doctor who didn’t know him. They may have cared for him, but without being able to be his advocate, how do any of us know how infrequently he was attended? They should’ve let him come home. He didn’t want to be there after the third day. 11 days of torture for him.

As you said, brutal.

I am so sorry. My husband refused the ventilator. They used a C PAP machine on him that blew a hole in his lung, it was turned too high. They let me see him a week before he died after they tortured him and knew he wasn’t going to make it. I also had covid pneumonia and they made me wear a mask, was determined to see him even if I passed out.