“Because of my age and health, I can’t do all those things in such a short period of time. I would like to (pick the one you want), though. Thank you so much for asking me.”
People who are well easily forget that some other people are not as well. I ran into that in my pregnancies: I couldn’t expect anyone to give me a break, especially because, “You chose to get pregnant.”
That time of night, and as with most things unexpected, I had no response except that, “I want to try to go to church.”
They look at me and see a healthy older person, fit and active. Not so much. I’ve been stuck behind four walls for over 30 years because of CFIDS, only doing what is absolutely necessary.
And of course, here, I haven’t been able to even do as much of that as I’ve wanted. So it’s even worse. My sanity is at stake, so I really do need to move back to Hurricane, so at least I can walk SOME places!
I think anyone who uses “You chose to get pregnant” should be forced to baby-sit a colicky baby.