I may suggest there is a difference between her kids wanting her and her kids knowing that they need her to be nearer.
Mrs. ArGee is finding that she can spend less and less time with her father, although I think he’s getting worse as his ability to do things for himself declines.
And I’m not meaning to suggest that Face might be hard to spend time with. Just suggesting that the invitation isn’t necessarily an invitation to Paridise.
I do not know the details of family relationships, but the daughter in Tennessee stayed with Mrs. Stone for a couple of months after Mr. Stone died. This implies an adequate level of getting-along.
We were there just over an hour, and then she said she needed to rest. She has heart issues as well as the recent TIA.
FS and his PW are far too selfish to allow me into their lives, ArGee, and they told me so when they pretty much banished me from their home before my apartment was habitable. They didn’t care about my history of COPD (Pertussis, asthma, Valley Fever, asbestos exposure all exacerbated by 20 years of smoking) or the fact that I couldn’t breathe in here. “We’re selfish and want to be alone.”
I’ve asked little of them since moving here and even less since I know how little they really want to do for me. Once I realized that I didn’t HAVE to stay here, the decision to leave was easy.
I am, in real life, as I am on FR, and T-c can probably attest to this.
Considering my age, chronic illness and arthritis, I think I do quite well, though CFIDS is the worst of all of it.
And no, ArGee, I didn’t expect it to be Paradise, but I certainly didn’t expect the shameful way I’ve been treated. FS knows better, but PW has managed to change him in ways I never knew were possible. Now, I find excuses not to be with them except on a limited basis. Self-preservation.
It breaks my heart, but he is doing what he wants to do.