He'd rather carry your groceries than carry you.
Perhaps if you carried, he'd ease up a bit?
Adamantly agree Nully. I've never understood why someone, particularly a female, wouldn't carry especially if they are in a city. Uncomfortable with a firearm? Get training. Still uncomfortable? Practice makes perfect.
A female cousin proudly told me she got her CC permit. I sincerely replied "Great, what firearm did you get?" Her reply..."I haven't gotten that part yet but I got my permit!" What is she going to do, show the bad guy her CC card?