> My father and I had somewhat different experiences with the Germans. <
My father served in the Atlantic, on anti-submarine duty. He never served in the Pacific. He pretty much forgave the Germans, but he hated the Japanese until the day he passed. Pearl Harbor was too hard a thing to forgive.
My dad was on the Marblehead and was in Borneo when Pearl was attacked, some of his badly wounded crew members are portrayed in the Cecil B. DeMille movie, “The Story of Dr. Wassell”.
He did relate one time how his light cruiser spent 1 1/2 hours trying to talk a jap officer and enlisted man into allowing themselves to be pulled out of the water, which they refused to do, the ship eventually had to leave and machine gunned the two men.