Or use scare quotes.
But I’m trying to think of an example of when, in ordinary conversation, we use gendered pronouns about the person we are speaking to. For example, “you” and “yours” are not gendered. But I wouldn’t use “his”, “hers”, “he”, “she”, “they”, “them”, etc. unless I was speaking to someone about someone else.
You are correct. When speaking directly to those folks a nongender pronoun would be used. I had assumed these misgendered folks felt misgendered when someone was speaking about the offended person in a way that implied a gender specific identity that did not match that person’s ideation.
Someone, on this site, mentioned that in the middle ages, some folk considered themselves to be made of glass. Quite interesting that delusional thinking just possibly appropriates any current fad or concept. Other examples could be messianic complexes, Napoleon complexes, people who confess to any crime they read about, people who impersonate doctors, policemen, businessmen,
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