Jordan Peterson recently did a long interview with a guy who had been through that family court meat grinder, and is now trying to dismantle it. It is part of what needs to happen to rebuild our culture.
That points out another aspect of the current relationship scene: successful guys assume a woman is more interested in their assets than in them. Someone who got to be successful through having a superior ability to read people, is not so likely to be taken in by a pretty gold digger.
Here it is:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9S60kJA6tic
There is no presumption of innocence for men in family court. There is no default 50-50 custody, even after children are enrolled in school. A man-hating feminist family court judge can indulge her hatred, with no repercussions. Plenty of men, including friends of mine, learned not just that marriage was the worst mistake of their lives, but a worse mistake that they believed was possible: "She'd never do that!" Then she does, the family court supports her legally, and the man's life is ruined.
And then there are married couples who still have smiles on their faces after twenty years. In my experience, those marriages are mostly between American men and foreign women, but there are exceptions.
To preserve the valuable institution of marriage, America should pay more attention to people whose marriages work, and the family court system should get MUCH more fair to men.