Posted on 01/17/2022 5:06:20 PM PST by nickcarraway
I personally know a woman whose children were sexually abused by her boyfriend. The male in that case was a pillar of the community until he committed suicide after having been found out. When I was raising my offspring, males were off limits. I agree with you absolutely when you say that such males are suspect.
F-b, the terminology you use gives me the impression that you are in the accounting or econ fields. That’s fine. However, I have a friend (gorgeous, tall, blonde, childless) who married an accountant (short, fat, childless, buys a new sports car every year). He is a big baby with respect to his numerous physical ailments. He quibbles with her about the expenses for her little pet dogs. (She is financially independent and they have separate checking accounts.) Wow, did she ever get stuck. Nobody wants a man-child.
Just an observation.
You misspelled "opinion."
Reciprocity as in I’m not bringing that kind of baggage into the relationship. I want a woman who is also not bringing that kind of baggage into the relationship. You say fussy, nit picking males aren’t worth the trouble. Do you mean males who actually have standards? If you are talking about a situation in which the partner is a freeloader just looking to sponge resources from the other, I don’t think anybody likes that. You say that anyone who is raising offspring doesn’t need another dependent. I don’t disagree. I would just say that applies to people who are not raising offspring as well - and that’s what another man’s child is - another dependent.
“I agree with you absolutely when you say that such males are suspect.”
I guess I wasn’t commenting in the context of males being “suspect” — although it is a consideration and I hadn’t thought of that. I don’t have kids (my choice) and it seemed that my single friends who dated men with children had high drama and angst ten times higher than if they’d have been in just one-on-one relationships with a guy. And, once married, it was 20 times worse.
Fair enough.
She should have asked her brothers or dad to pay for the wedding.
If they would not , tell them they are low down pieces of trash!
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