“...but just admit you are fat, and unhealthy - don’t try to convince everyone is it’s just a perception problem - it’s not.”
The appearance of being overweight is not the perception of the person of size, it is the perception of the person critical of the person of size. It is the same problem with many different, so called, problems in our society. If a person is a color, then perception from some, many times too many, is that they are radicals and want to cause pain so they should be feared. If a person is a religion, then they are to be feared. If a person has a different political belief, then they are a threat. There are many more but each one is a conditioning, not necessarily a reality.
We come out of the womb a blank slate. We don’t see race, wealth, or political belief any more than we see that pooping in our diapers is wrong. We are taught what to fear rather than embracing the possibility. So, it isn’t even our perception, it’s someone else’s.
There is no standard of anything that is not controllable. And there are many things that aren’t that people still have strong opinions of. Health is one. We are taught that health is the key to happiness...along with money, power, and control of life. (Sounds like God, doesn’t it) But happiness is a perception that should only belong to the person in question and is personal. So what other people feel about me, for instance, matters very little.
“don’t try to convince everyone is it’s just a perception problem - it’s not.”
We each have our own perception along with opinions, don’t we? If I don’t attempt to force mine on you, thus making no difference to you, then why is your perception of my happiness an issue with me? I lived my life. Now I settle down with my memories and my content or unhappiness. Either way, it matters little to anyone except me. So whose perception are we working with?
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>>We each have our own perception along with opinions, don’t we? If I don’t attempt to force mine on you, thus making no difference to you, then why is your perception of my happiness an issue with me? I lived my life. Now I settle down with my memories and my content or unhappiness. Either way, it matters little to anyone except me. So whose perception are we working with?
I believe some folks truly like the look of an overweight person - I can’t relate - but beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
But that is not my point: my point is carrying excess weight is unhealthy - that is not a matter of ‘perception’ it is a matter of fact (being much too thin is also unhealthy), don’t have a problem with people being attracted to overweight people - not even a problem with people ‘choosing’ to be overweight - just have a really big problem with people who claim they can be 50-100-150+ pounds overweight, and still claim to be healthy - that is simply untrue.