Yeah, I wanted to keep him here and hire someone but his children thought the memory care was a better option. When he first went there and the first 6 months, it was great, he made friends and they kept him busy all the time with activities, he had a walking group, he really liked it. He took a real bad turn about 3-4 months ago where he started hitting people and became aggressive and they have had to medicate him for that. While it did calm his agitation, it made his confusion worse. He is very frail now and cannot handle his grooming anymore. He is still able to feed himself and shuffle around without a walker though.
He still makes me laugh though, I did his nails yesterday and when I was done, he felt all his nails and said, “you missed one”. He had a full beard (never in his life had one) and didn’t even realize it. But when we shaved him, he felt his face and pointed out all the places we missed. It was pretty funny!
Sweet! My friend in Midland that took care of her MIL, would get upset when Mary got mad at her, even though she is a health professional. I told her not to take it personal, even though I’m not a medical professional. But I guess it’s easier when you’re not the everyday caretaker.
My friend put off the doctors wanting to put Mary on drugs to calm her, which was good, but there comes a time.
I know this is hard for you all, I’m sure you remember the man he used to be.