That’s awful about your FIL nursing home. Must he stupid regulations prevent them from getting it fixed faster. Those poor patients must be so scared and confused. Glad you were able to help. Are you able to take him home for a day or two for Christmas?
Maybe, the director of his previous IL/AL/MC left and a nurse is running the whole facility now. I am sure she is a great nurse, but she is not good at management. Everything has gone south there since she took over. We have been over there almost every day for the past several months.
One frustrating thing is the flood happened in the Assisted living wing. So they moved the Assisted Living folks down to Memory Care and moved the Memory care to other facilities. That makes no sense to me. The MC people have dementia, Alzheimer’s, Parkinson’s, etc., and any kind of move or change really throws them into a tailspin.
We talked about bringing him here, but decided against it, because change is scary for him. Even trips to the doctor or visits here make him confused and upset. He doesn’t know who we are, he doesn’t remember our home, his kids, his grandkids. He wanders and we don’t have the setup to keep him safe, he can’t maneuver stairs anymore so there’s no way to help him with toileting or bathing. Because I have the farm to take care of, I’d have to hire someone to watch him 24/7... So we are going over there instead. It’s hard to explain if you haven’t had a loved one with advanced dementia. I have taken care of my MIL with cancer and my mom with ALS (both required full care with lifts/wheelchairs, etc) but their minds were still there, this is a very different situation, sadly.