Disagree—if family thinks they own you, they are your enemy—forever.
That toothpaste cannot be put back in the tube.
Agreed.
tell them she loves them, do her own thing, and pray for them. . . Eyes often open up eventually, if you give (panicky) people time and space.
I'm not seeing a contradiction here. They're either her enemy forever, or . . . not so much. We're not God, so we can make our best guess, but we don't know the future. I don't see how she loses, whether her family stays deluded, or gets on the sane train.
I have plenty of wacko-birds in my family. Some have gone from "enemy" to friend; some haven't. I've been wrong plenty of times. If I spend my time trying to maintain an "enemyship" in my mind, I'm using up brain-space, and probably sinning against charity.