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...people who end up with someone who closely resembles them are narcissists who are secretly in love with themselves, hence the attraction to someone who looks like them.

I can believe that. My husband and I look nothing alike, and personality-wise, we are complete opposites in every way. And the more people I’ve told that, the more I hear the same claim from other long-term couples, as well!

Even though we may put up a united front, at home in the nitty-gritty of life, we have different tastes, talents, internal clocks, ways of doing things and looking at problem-solving... it’s not along the lines of stereotypical sex attributes, either - I excel at things which he does not, such as spatial relationships - map reading, tool use, etc. - for example, while his verbal communication skills are much, much better than mine. It can be frustrating as heck at times, but also a positive challenge to personal growth and acceptance, in the end. I can’t imagine how dull it would be to live with an opposite sex but otherwise carbon-copy of myself.