As the wife of an adopted man, I can tell you that it’s something a lot of adoptees want and need. If I had given up a baby for adoption, which is often an honorable thing to do, I would have forever felt the loss. It is an act of love, to give up your own child for his own good, but many adoptees need closure. It took a long time for my husband to forgive his birth mother, but he was finally able to see that it wasn’t that he was unwanted, it was that she was a 16 year old kid who could not make a home for him, especially since her mother had tried to abort him and the father ran off and joined the army; she had no support. She, herself, was unable to have any children after that, adopting two children, years later, after she married.
We have two adopted sons. Both were adopted either at birth or shortly thereafter.
Both grew up knowing their birth mothers and their families. One grew up knowing his birth father and his birth father’s mother.
One of my sons occasionally spends a week with his birth mother.
We made the right decision raising them like this.
I think your story is true of most adoptions, i. e., the child is given up to have a better life, not because he is unwanted or unloved. Usually by a young girl with little or no support system.