It sounds like she was trying to find the root cause of her over eating and she was concerned for her health. Blaming the dead women hardly seems appropriate.
I stress eat and am overweight. I am active and gave up fast food and sugary drinks a couple years ago but the weight remains. I did lose twenty pounds but I still see an unhealthy pattern. A lot of it is related to a chaotic work schedule and skipping meals because I forget to eat then end up making up for the calories late in the day. It’s a vicious cycle.
I don’t feel healthy and yet medicine tells me I’m great with no heart issues and I’m not even pre-diabetic.
You point out your problems then do nothing about them so I that is your problem. Confront the problem and end it.
Stress eating? End whatever causes you stress or find a way to deal with it differently.
Stop skipping meals. That’s in your control. You make the rules about you no one else does and a chaotic work schedule is the result of not prioritizing things.
Do not listen to Maddog his advice is horrible the thing that you need to remember is that there is no short cut to weight loss. My last visit to the Doctor I kind of found out that anything quick and easy but works for you when it comes to calories and diet is usually too good to be true. Remember foods high in sodium will cause the kidneys to work harder than they need to and create all kinds of problems. As for your situation I have been there and done that what has worked me in the past is taking one day and cooking your meals for the week.