That actually makes a lot of sense to me as well. I think the distinction bugs me more than anything; as I doubt nature does any such thing. That we're seeing any distinction just tells me we're likely missing part of that puzzle. Still fascinating to me to consider the level of complexity and persistence that can be achieved with the random variations and fluctuations at the quantum level. The smoothing that must take place at the macro levels to support things like planetary formation is incredible. Everything around us appears to be an average of averages of randomness, yet it all works predictably.
There’s a theory I read called the “Wave Structure of Matter” that proposes that basically, everything is just waves all the way down. The particles are generated by harmonic combination of all the waves in the entire universe, creating particles in certain localities where the waves are colliding in just the right manner to produce a “standing wave” that has the properties of a particle.
Not sure if that theory is right, but it seems more sensible than the “particles are sometimes particles, and sometimes waves, depending on what is around them and whether we are looking or not” theory.