I ALWAYS unpack the groceries with my wife...that way I can see what she snuck into the cart when I wasn’t paying attention. :-)
I NEVER go grocery shopping with my wife ... that way she doesn't know what I have snuck into the bill (er, bag) when she is not paying attention.
Mr.RightField and I are approaching 48 years of wedded bliss. We had conflicts early on about how to organize the food. I thought it wasn’t worth arguing about, and what he really wanted was to see what I’d brought home. Fair enough. So for most of those 48 years, he has been bringing in the groceries from the car (I do 99% of the in-store shopping) and putting everything away. I’ve only had to make minor tweaks to his organization system, lol. If items need to be separated or repacked into smaller portions, I’ll do that. It works for us.