oh my a rebellious teenager. perish the thought. a rite of passage.
“oh my a rebellious teenager. perish the thought. a rite of passage.”
I agree. Having had 3 children and having adopted the illegitimate child of the oldest, I can say that, from my point of view, you can’t choose the child who becomes your ‘child’. You can’t even truly mold them into decent human beings if she or he has the genes for disruption and betrayal, or a mind that doesn’t look for cause and effect, logical and decent solutions to problems.
My then husband and I encouraged all of them to stay in school and said we would pay for them to go to Texas A&M if they would use our family home as their base. None of them chose that. Two of our kids did get college degrees eventually and they are fun for me to interact with today, thoughtful and insightful. Our oldest daughter became a grifter. Her out of wedlock daughter is exactly the same.
Those mixes of genes are indiscriminate and impossible to “fix”. Accepting that part is very difficult.