Comparing the software of safety critical systems to your desktop computer software is also apples and oranges.
The number one reason for fatalities on the road is distracted or impaired drivers. These vehicles will be immune from such problems, with both fail-safe and fail-operational backups.
Regarding impaired drivers, technology could help here with a combination of facial recognition and breathalyzer technology. Wouldn't be perfect, but could be done very well.
The bottom line is that computers and automation can help to make drivers safer, without supplanting drivers. That's preferable, because human oversight and back-up makes computers much safer.