Got distracted.
if you choose to be a Reservist and are not employed
Additionally, it is correct that your reservist status can significantly inhibit your ability to become employed. You are required to disclose this.
The laws do not protect you if you are unemployed and are seeking employment. They only protect you from being terminated as a result of your call to duty if you are employed.
Again, this is all well known. Choices have consequences. Not all pleasant or convenient.
The National Guard and the Army Reserves are two different entities. That said, I agree that this is a choice, and it sounds like the husband prefers to serve additional duty in the NG over being at home with his complaining wife.
Based on your take on the situation I would say that all reserve forces must be abolished and it’s either full time military in or out. It is foolish for the military to have to draw upon part timers anyway when part timers are not going to be supported as full timers when they do serve.
So get rid of the reserve program completely so that we don’t have these problems. Make all soldiers full time or not. If there must be a reserve program, then the reservists need to be treated better, especially the ones who always seem to be away on a quasi-full time status. I would say this military wife is on the money and is calling out the generals and politicians on a sore subject they would rather not deal with.
So much for choice. Would you agree then that the reserves should be done away with? That reservists shouldn’t have families? That reservists should live a spartan life, to live in poverty but always at the ready to lose their lives for their country?
Then let’s do away with the reserve programs and make it an either you are in or out full time military!