I love tuxedo cats. One wandered into the yard 4 years ago. Very feral. Stayed hidden in the bushes for almost a year. Fortunately it had already been neutered by the Friends of Feral Felines. (It’s ear was clipped.)
I thought it was a female the first couple of years. Then one day while he was grooming himself it was clear he was a he. He allows me to pet him now and he loves being brushed but I’d never try to pick him up.
We’ve occasionally had an extra cat try to move in on us, but we discourage them.