Nah, this has been going on for decades. Spending $200 to $300 per person is normal now.
My MA son was married in Hawaii.
We deliberately did NOT invite most people from MA formally,they would have felt obliged to give a gift.
It was very casually done and those who DID go had a great time.
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Likelihood this is real: 5%.
Likelihood this is some kind of clickbait scheme: 95%.
My husband and I had a lovely Hawaii wedding. It was just the two of us. That was the whole point of flying off to Hawaii to get married.
These days, this is entirely believable.
Sad to say.
That groom better run - fast, far; never looking back if he knows what’s good for him.
What was he doing with such a selfish narcissist in the first place? Maybe he’s cut from the same cloth, I don’t know.
My daughter & son-in-law eloped in the spring and had a reception at home in the summer. Inviting people to a destination wedding is for the very wealthy not the average folk.
We had lumpia and rumaki at the Chiefs club.
No, don't do that! Don't throw me in dat dere briar patch!
I told my kids I want a destination funeral. Take some life insurance money, scatter my ashes in the waters around Tahiti and then enjoy a couple of weeks with their spouses.
They seemed pretty excited...
Wow, I must be getting old and curmudgeonly.
Three modern trends I cannot stand:
Destination weddings - Not going, sorry. No gift for you!
Gender reveal parties - I can wait until your child is born to learn its sex.
Tatoos - Sorry, not attractive or cool for 99.9% of the population.
I was a Wedding Coordinator in Hawaii at a five-star resort. Unless the couple was from big oil money or Hollywood money, the weddings were extremely small. Sometimes just the couple. Sometimes parents and/or two witnesses.
It is VERY expensive to attend a wedding there. No matter how much you think it’ll cost, it’s twice that much.
Brazil is not a first world country. But the bride has a first world problem.
Because, well, she DESERVES it!
Ping
They’re ruining “her” day. The poor sap should take the ring and walk away.
We had a destination wedding.
Somewhere (Lake Placid NY) everyone could get to, wanted to go, and could afford.
80+ showed up, a perfect size crowd.
You can pick a desirable destination without the major time/money/effort of Hawaii et al.
My brother got married in the Philippines for crying out loud and no one bitched about it. All of my brother’s 20 friends from college, high school etc. paid for their airfare. The only thing the guests “bitched” about was the damn humidity, even when we were beside the ocean!
I swear, if I ever get married, I’m going to do a simple civil ceremony and then hold a modest celebration some time afterward, like my Aunt and Uncle did. People can come . . . or not. I’m not sure I’m going to care at this point. Since I’m 51, the fewer the better may be the rule.
Oh, and my Aunt and Uncle recently celebrated their 25th wedding anniversary.