I just evicted my youngest son a few weeks ago, after 6 months of him screwing atound, smoking dope (like I couldn't tell, heh), quitting or getting fired from 4 jobs, and playing video games. I made it clear that if he wasn't gone by the beginning of May, I would have a deputy drag him out and bring along a drug dog for good measure to go over his room and walk past his car.
This was his third and last chance to come home to get sorted out. May seem like a heavy-handed approach, but I'm no longer in a condition to go for a roll in the dirt with a 6'1" 250lb baby huey that said he wanted to beat me down.
Why am I saying all this? I woke up an hour ago with heartburn and I'm still waiting for the antacids to work....lol.
I did the same thing to my son when he was 18. Pot, liquor. constant traffic fines. He is now 45 and a teacher and coach. Says my kicking him out was a wake up call and completely agrees with my decision!!!
that’s rough, but I agree you did the right thing. That first step of really being a grown-up - i.e. going out on your own - is hard, but it doesn’t get easier for them by waiting til they’re thirty! Good luck to you and your son.
Tough, but necessary. Maybe hand him a copy of Jordan Peterson’s 12 Rules for Life and call it good.
This was his third and last chance to come home to get sorted out. May seem like a heavy-handed approach, but I'm no longer in a condition to go for a roll in the dirt with a 6'1" 250lb baby huey that said he wanted to beat me down.
You did what any loving, sane parent would do.
I applaud you, sir!