My 380 has no disturbing recoil/kick, very easy to handle.
Question, your 45 ACP XDS, does that little gun want to jump out of your hands when fired? Any noticeable bruising or tiring of the hands after several rounds? Does the recoil/kick affect accuracy with the second and subsequent rapid fire shots?
This 45 ACP recoil in such a small frame is what’s holding me back.
I don't own one, but have fired the XDs in .45 enough to say that the recoil experience is far more pleasant than one might think. I was given a complimentary test shoot with the first one that arrived at the LGS, and I was very surprised at how well it behaved. It isn't a creampuff, but even an old codger like myself had no trouble handling what it dishes out. Someone did a good job designing it.
If I was to go back to owning .45s, I'd buy a 1911A1 to look at, and an XDs to actually carry.
No problems here with recoil or 2nd shot accuracy.
The extended mag, 7 rounds, is longer and provides more grip if you need it.
It is one sweet shooter and has never bruised or bit me.