For the alcoholic they have a different issue...they process alcohol differently which makes them crave a drink
For the addict they have a hard time detoxing
For both they suffer from incomprehensible demoralization. They are spiritually bankrupt. Until they can change this way of looking at the world they are doomed to die a miserable and lonely death
There are certainly some genetic precursors etc. involved. However, the OP is speaking to a deeper foundational issue. It is not clear where the genetic predisposition to handling alcohol poorly came from. It is very conceivable that eons ago, it arose out of serious RAD in some early humans.
In any case, that genetic predisposition does NOT develop into full blown alcoholism in the lives of all those with that genetic structure. Why?
For the addict they have a hard time detoxing
True. And, as the OP indicates, so do all those with a lack of affectionate loving bonding, CONNECTION early in life--regardless of the addiction--whether it be overwork, masturbation, OCD, hording cats, hording magazines, scratching or cutting one's skin, etc. etc. etc.
For both they suffer from incomprehensible demoralization. They are spiritually bankrupt. Until they can change this way of looking at the world they are doomed to die a miserable and lonely death.
That's part of what the OP was outlining. How does one change one's perspective when one's glued-in-existential contact-lenses--so to speak--are emphatically dark, bleak, isolated, painful, self-condemnatory, etc. etc. etc???