while I take no opinion on Angela’s statement, I am reminded of a woman at my office years ago that always had her blouse half unbuttoned to show off her ample cleavage. She then had the nerve to complain about men staring at her boobs.
I had a roommate like that. She was a beauty with long red hair, and craaaaaaazy. She would head out ALONE to the beach in a white bikini, to lie alone on a towel with her eyes closed. I’m sorry, that is asking for trouble, and I told her, but she insisted it was ok. (By the way, if you men see a girl like that, stay away, they usually are the crazy bunny burner type like she was)
This is the thing.
There are two possible interpretations: 1. They are just being cheeky by complaining, they actually love people looking at their cleavage, but take no responsibility for any negative consequences, either for their colleagues or themselves. or 2. They do want people to look at their breasts and be attracted, but only certain people. So they get annoyed that unsanctioned humans become attracted, when they were only trying to get attention from one in particular. That seems the more common of the two, to my experience. “Yes I want to attract attention from men, but I didn’t mean YOU, for god’s sake!”
I guess Leeann Tweeden is a third option, someone who actually is making a good professional living showing off her unclothed breasts so Franken miming grabbing them is sort of acknowledging that was her profession at the time. The only reason any of us has ever heard her name was because she was naked a lot of the time.
We had an intern in our office who had been molested when young. She did the same thing: open blouse, and lean over in front of men. I figured she must have learned to flirt this way from her molester.
Women always have a target and if the "right" man wasn't paying attention then it was a problem.
And there is the game, in a nutshell.
“I am reminded of a woman at my office years ago that always had her blouse half unbuttoned to show off her ample cleavage. She then had the nerve to complain about men staring at her boobs.”
A friend of mine got his new Jeep stolen. He had taken off the doors and would put the key up over the driver’s sun shade.
He shouldn’t have had his Jeep stolen, but he was reckless.
Same issue.
There’s a difference between “making yourself attractive,” as Ms. Lansbury put it, and acting like your coworker— and/or walking around dressed like a Sunset Boulevard hooker. I think Ms. Lansbury could have phrased it a bit differently, but I basically agree with her.
Which is what Angela is referring to. Women want to dress and act like a slut, then act horrified when men respond.