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I’m a waitress, we are already “the help”. Eliminating sir or ma’am is just dehumanizing, IMO.

But, no one is forced to work in these freakshows. This policy guarantees (though I could be wrong) they will have servers who are not warm, friendly or gracious. Serving is a bit of theatre; you read the table and act accordingly in order to please the customer. People who put their preferred pronoun desires ahead of fabulous service will be crappy servers.

This policy guarantees (though I could be wrong) they will have servers who are not warm, friendly or gracious.

Although not stated as a primary goal, the erosion of civility as a result of political correctness is clearly an outcome. If you were on the waitstaff, why would you tolerate this treatment?

This policy guarantees (though I could be wrong) they will have servers who are not warm, friendly or gracious.

I know that good waitresses put aside their problems and I really appreciate warmth and a pleasant demeanor when I am in the middle of a busy work day and take lunch on my own, on my terms.

There is something very relaxing about a sweet waitress with a pleasant smile that enhances the whole dining experience. (I do NOT mean in a sexual way. It could be a 60 year old grandma or a gawky teenager with acne.) I'll tip guys who provide good service, too, but a pleasant woman who does her job well makes the whole dining experience better, and can even help set the tone for the rest of the day. If restaurant-wide policies change the environment, it attracts some customers and repels others. (Same goes for choice of muzak and availability of WIFI)