Then I can only observe that you obviously have never had to stand there when a male friend of yours is trying so hard and failing not to cry because his ex- is taking the children out of state and he will never be able to see them again.
Men don't cry? Think again.
No, I get it 100% and am ALWAYS on the side of these good men. Sadly, I am also in that position from the other side, not having the kids taken away but having to raise them alone. My heart breaks for you. But it breaks for me too. I do ridiculous gymnastic backbends to be good, fair, loving. But I got as screwed as you. Marriage sucks.