Posted on 05/14/2017 1:33:01 PM PDT by SamAdams76
They just don't.
In my high school years, I was Richie Cunningham. The earnest young boy from "Happy Days" who always was looking to please others, especially the adults in his life.
As a result, we were walked all over, taken advantage of and subsequently, not dated by girls.
Now Richie Cunningham might have had a girlfriend or two during the fictitious "Happy Days" run but in my real-life Richie Cunningham phase, I had zero girlfriends. I did have several dates that went disastrously wrong because I thought dating was all about being a nice guy. It wasn't.
During that phase, my date would go something like this: I would drive to the girl's house in my dad's '76 baby-blue Chrysler Newport and do the obligatory meeting with the girl's dad. I'd talk about my college plans, maybe the military. I'd tell him about my job at the supermarket bagging groceries and shagging carts and assuring him that the movie I was taking his daughter to was PG rated. I could almost see the dad subconsciously tagging me as a loser and telling me to just bring his daughter home "at a reasonable hour."
Then once I got the girl in the car, I would ask her what she wanted to do. She'd look at me like I had three heads and reply, shrugging, that she would do whatever I wanted to do. So we'd end up seeing some PG rated movie that sucked (think "Kramer vs Kramer" or "Jazz Singer" with Neil Diamond) and would have an awkward nightcap at some Denny's or Friendly's over some grilled cheese and a milkshake. During all this, I'd try to work up conversation but saying I was all in with "women's lib" and that I think that women are better than men in just about every way. I'd ask her about her favorite band and that band just happened to be my favorite band too. Even if it was Abba or the Bee Gees. Then I'd talk about my baseball card collection or how I like to walk along the beach at low tide and toss clams back into the ocean so that they don't die. Once the night was over, she'd shake my hand and tell me that she had a good time and we should do this again sometime. Except she'd never call me, would avoid me in the high school hallway and would never return my calls.
In my Richie Cunningham phase, I never even got to first base. Either it was a total strikeout or a foul pop up out.
It was then that I realized that girls don't like nice boys. I had just joined the Marine Corps and was about to go into boot camp so I had nothing to lose. Just after graduation, I asked a girl on a date and decided to be a total jerk. I refused to meet with her father and insisted she just come to the car. I took her to see "The Shining" with Jack Nicholson starring. She loved it. We went to a real restaurant afterwards and I ordered her meal plus a seven & seven for both of us even though we were not old enough to drink yet. She loved it.
We spent the next two hours necking at the beach before I took her home, well after midnight. She started ringing me up the morning afterwards asking if we could go out again. I didn't return her call for two days. Finally I called and she answered on the very first ring. This was way before cell phones so she was basically sitting at home waiting for me to call.
I was Richie Cunningham no more.
My SIL actually believes (last I talked to her and it’s been a while) there should be a government solution to that...
” He’s sweet.” The kiss of death;
...and the moral of this toad’s story is: be an A-hole?? Yeah, right, women want a jerk for a date. You didn’t have to be a nerd and you didn’t have to be a jerk. Some girls like “rough” guys when they are 17 but experience shows that they are not looking for Disco light shows and poor behavior.
“he will not always say...what you would have him say, but all at once, he’ll say something...wonderful!” (From the King and I.)
“he has a thousand dreams that won’t come true, but you know he believes in them, and that’s all right with you...”
(from the same play)
Sound familiar?...lots of “good” guys are like that, though we stay loyal to our women if not always perfectly “housebroken” in manners or speech.
Nice growing up story...and here you are as a FREEPER as well!
I have long heard that sexual abuse as children is a recognized influential factor among lesbians as well...have you found that to be the case?
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