Wow. Can I ask how you both were able to avoid court? I thought it was impossible to avoid the courts.
Or did you still have to go into family court, it’s just neither of you had lawyers and had worked it all out beforehand?
Family Court is set up to drag the process out and have each side antagonize the other, to maximize court time, attorney fees, and court-appointed experts.
Sad you both split up, but glad neither of you got reamed in Family Court. Your separation is more like how they do it in Europe, where the courts are not set up biased towards either side, are not set up to make money off the couple splitting up, and kids are not used as weapons and stealth alimony.
Courts in most states today greatly encourage Divorce Mediation (but not as much if children are involved). In Mediation, you both work out the separation of the assets, nobody gets an attorney, the mediator ensures a fair process, and both agree to be bound by the mediator's final decisions. It costs far less, is far faster, and is becoming more and more popular (as long as you can both be adults).