[Mr. Jeeves]

I think what gets missed in all of these lengthy discussions is that human beings are works in progress. Society endures and advances when two pretty good young people meet and marry at 23 or so and have several kids over the next few years and mold each other's personalities and help each other get better. Society does not advance when people overprioritize "career" and hold out until age 38 waiting for Mr./Ms. Perfect - who isn't coming.

When one looks at how much governments and universities and bankers profit from today's cultural bias toward delayed marriages, however, one understands why the propaganda is so intense. :)

[redgolum]

It is a trade off.

I am stalled out in lower position as an engineer because I don’t want my family to bear the costs. I turned down a lot more money to keep my girls rooted in the area where we live and they have a wonderful support structure.

Ripping them out of that every two years isn’t good for them. In my 20’s, I moved every year till I met my wife. Now, I may not move out of the area I am in till the girls are gone.