That’s like saying a man shouldn’t have sex with his wife if she gains weight. Better or worse. Sex should not be a tool.
Most of the abusers I know actually did have sex with their wives. It’s one of the forms of abuse.
I think we miscommunicated. Perhaps you were originally being sarcastic?
I responded to “A woman who won’t have sex with her husband isn’t a woman.”
To me sex is a two way street not a duty.
Sometimes my wife abuses me as well when we have sex.
I look forward to those nights the most.
The ones most likely to get "cut off", in my experience, were the "nice guys". They weren't exciting. The wives of the utter bastards know they won't put up with a sexless marriage.