Posted on 04/26/2017 6:18:53 AM PDT by BJ1
Fast forward to my 38th birthday. I was still single, and the world of dating had changed significantly in the last eight years. Tinder and Bumble, the dominant dating apps, offered countless options for single men and women, but made the experience of dating entirely impersonal.
Dating amounted to small talk with a stranger, who you had briefly interfaced with online because you each thought the other attractive. The small talk was a prelude to hooking up, and there were no expectations even of a text the next day.
It was brutal. And after trying my hand at it, I was no closer to finding the love of my life or starting a family. If I needed statistics to back me up, I had them. In 2014, marriage was on the decline, as was the fertility rate in the United States.
I had one real option left -- and that was to attempt to get pregnant alone.
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Often you can give good advice but with testosterone/mating instinct raging it falls on deaf ears.
These are not simple problems.
She's a serial dater and still resents the guy that dumped her back when she was 30.
And so I began my search with a focus on the physical attributes that I have always been attracted to -- namely height and athleticism. Six-foot-2 and toned was my baseline.
The donor was a collegiate lacrosse athlete. I was able to see three pictures, from tot to teen, of an adorable boy with an incredible smile, unruly hair and a twinkle in his eyes.
Even at 40, she never stopped being 14, there wasn't a man available that could live up to her standards so she went for a turkey baster.
Well, it used to be hot looking teachers who taught them. Now that’s outlawed.
Very wise.
You sound like a lawyer. Did I need to post all the caveats? Guess what, when talking about human populations it’s OK to generalize. Everybody knows there are exceptions to the rule.
...and the congregation said, “Amen!”
Hopefully so. I don't know if it ever was legal, and whether it's more prevalent or sensationalist reporting has made it seem so.
If we're supporting less, not more pre-marital sex, it follows both partners will be less "experienced."
I believe (in all areas of life) that the fairer sex can exercise far more control (if delivered with a light touch) than most realize.
My Father died when I was 14, just when I needed him to show the way to adulthood.
Ma was a strong woman, to say the least and did her best, but a boy needs a father to show him the way to manhood.
What caused the Change?
If you define fertility as plain biological "ability to natural conceive, carry and bear a baby, barring deliberate surgical enhancement or impairment" you'll have one set of numbers; if you define it sociologically as "number of women actually giving birth per thousand," you'll get a different set of numbers.
As I understand it, well more than half of American women ages 35-44 have been sterilized; another 15% in that age group rely on the sterilization of their partners.
That should not be treated statistically as if it were natural infertility.
“It only matters what He thinks. And He happens to disagree with you.”
So now you speak for God too? You’re claiming to be a prophet?
Right, so what men do is mens’ fault, and what women do is mens’ fault, and we can’t hold you responsible for such a stupid opinion, because your opinion is God’s fault.
Got it.
:). Thanks for the positive comment. Each one of our children are a treasure to us, we would have been thrilled to have more but that wasn’t God’s plan for us.
To a guy who married young and was abandoned with a child after doing everything possible to support said marriage, most of you people are very discouraging and disheartening to listen to.
Perhaps having resigned to my current circumstances isn’t helping, but it’s hard to see any reason to continue to hope with the comments, reviews, and indictments in this thread and others recently.
Sperm quality has also declined overtime, due to such factors, as well.
Women in my family have had babies well into their 40s, all of whom turned out great. It's our culture -- marry late, have children late, and every one will be greatly anticipated and deeply longed for. It's called "Irish birth control."
I think it’s sad. Kids need a married mother and father loving and taking care of them. There is so much they miss out on not having one or the other.
>>>Why on earth would a woman eff strangers over and over they just met
And then wonder why unhappy
I have watched this unhappy and childless thing late 30s since the early 80s in Manhattan<<<
I have no idea. As a man I think doing the same is repulsive. Maybe somebody else can tell us why women do this.
Speaking from experience, I can tell you there is little more abusive than being the child of a single “Goldilocks.”
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