“Somewhere there is a woman behind it.”
Yes, you are right. He never dated in high school or college, and then met a young lady a few years ago. When he introduced her to us, she basically ignored us all night while hanging all over our son (in front of my 10 year old daughter at the time), and giggled and acted very dingy. I told him later that I wouldn’t have that kind of PDA in front of my daughter. You can’t have an intelligent conversation with her. They got engaged but quickly realized it is kind of hard when you both live at home and don’t have an income level required to move out on their own.
Now he is going to this 6 month paid internship (that is supposed to culminate in a job) and she is going to school for surgical technician (she’s only worked at Starbucks but at least realized she also needed some additional skills) so they will be apart for the next several months as he moves away. He doesn’t ever bring her around to us, and when she does come to holiday gatherings, again, she basically ignores us while talking to extended family. He spends time with her family and they all love him. Even though at the beginning of the relationship he talked about how controlling they were of her, and how they had been part of a weird cult like home church where all the families got together and listened to some guy (not a pastor) preach. The kids weren’t allowed to socialize with anyone outside the “church.” She has been going to all the different churches my son has been trying out since he decided to leave the LCMS. Now they are both trying to convert to Orthodoxy.
At Christmas, she brought my mom a present but got nothing for my DH and I and I or even my daughter. We did get her something. At this point, I can’t stand being around her. I don’t treat her poorly or talk down to her or anything. I think he has talked about us to her so much that she hates us.
So yes, I do believe this relationship has a lot to do with his attitude towards us as well. It’s not just politics, it’s basically anything we do he has a contradictory or sarcastic comment about. Again, maybe distance between us (and the girl) will help.
What makes someone a liberal is having a favorite sin. We are all sinners, but it is our calling as Christians to reject sin in all its forms, always repenting and returning to the love of God. If we willfully let anything stand between us and the love of God, i.e. sin, then our conscience goes a little nutty, it has to be smothered by a false morality a false theology. Hence liberalism.
Your son is a “liberal” because he has been swindled by sexual immorality, enjoying the marriage good outside holy matrimony. He will remain trapped by liberalism until he repents.
You will be in our prayers. God bless you for your focus on what is most important