Would I invest my hard-earned money in the expectation that I would end up losing everything nearly half the time?
I followed this line of reasoning when I was in my prime marriageable years, back in the 80s and 90s.
I was cautious about who I dated. In the final analysis I never dated any female who I thought was worth the risk.
I’m nearly 60 now, and I have to say that loneliness is a small price to pay for never having been dragged into court and skinned alive financially.
Over the years, I’ve developed a rather stern worldview, and few things matter to me more than never being taken advantage of by anyone. I’d be a hard man indeed, if not for the fact that I put equal emphasis on never taking advantage of others.
The ultimate failure of the sexual revolution lies in the fact that other people are not your playthings. Even if they want to degrade themselves in such fashion, you still have your own honor to preserve.
Most human relationships are transactional. If you’re a man, the only real love you’re likely to experience is from your parents or siblings. I was fortunate that my father was the most fundamentally decent person I’ve ever know, or am likely to.
Men love women. Women love their children. Children love puppies. Dogs love their alpha male.
I’ve spent less than 3 years married out of 78. Being single has its advantages but all are outweighed by the good marriage that has escaped me.
“The ultimate failure of the sexual revolution lies in the fact that other people are not your playthings. Even if they want to degrade themselves in such fashion, you still have your own honor to preserve.”
Exactly; the sexual revolution turned sex/relationships into a playground and people into playthings.
You shoulda married me. I never asked for one cent from my spouses. The only thing I told them re child support was, it’s between you and the child forever, because I will not lie for you. If he grows up and wants to know if you paid support, I will let him know whether you did or not. I asked for nothing and my first ex paid (a small amount of his choosing, he had no custody and lived 10,000 miles away so I thought it was fair) until he was 21.
But I disagree that men don’t receive love except for from their parents. I don’t understand that feeling you have at all.